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GáborParticipantYes, you’re right, that’s only an assumption that a trauma caused stuttering.
GáborParticipantThanks, I’ve talked a little bit on the last meeting, but only at the beginning when it wasn’t recorded yet.
GáborParticipantYes, I’ll definitely show my parents that I can speak fluently.
My dad is very old-fashioned, doesn’t speak any foreign languages and doesn’t even have a computer, not to mention internet connection. We meet very rarely but I’ll still be able to show him videos about my speech on my phone.
GáborParticipantMy dad is a stutterer and I think he believes that he has to be blamed for my stuttering because of genetics (my elder brother doesn’t stutter).
GáborParticipantHi, I think I remember some of your coaching videos with Lee, welcome here! 🙂
GáborParticipantMaybe we can use the word “ideas” instead of “message”.
GáborParticipantI’d use present tense and a more positive statement:
e.g. “I always trust myself and I’m only thinking about my message when I speak”
GáborParticipantYes, that’s true, back then I didn’t have any tools to avoid severe stuttering and I thought being open about it is the right thing to do (I still read in some stuttering forums and groups that we should stutter proudly and if others don’t like it, that’s their problems, which I cannot really accept now).
GáborParticipantOn this weekend I went out with some friends and had some beers. My perception was that I didn’t have any bad speech incidents during the evening, even under the influence of some alcohol. But I talked so much I had a sore throat on the next day. 🙂
In the past I was concerned if others will notice my fluency or not, but I realized that it’s only my own opinion about my speech that counts – if I feel I speak freely, that’s a huge success. And as we all know, speech usually only bothers us and others don’t even care if we’re fluent or not.
GáborParticipantMy winner mindset for my current job was that I don’t care about the results, I went to the interview to practice and because of curiosity (“let’s see what they can offer to me”). As a PWS I also had some humiliating experiences and an interview, where I talked about my stuttering and I think that was a mistake (as the interviewer could use this information as a reason not to hire me).
October 22, 2020 at 7:58 pm in reply to: Do you guys think that as PWS/PWSS, we can ever truly love public speaking? #28009GáborParticipantThat’s interesting because I’d actually love public speaking, as a kid I was all over the place and wanted to be the center of attention all the time.
As a PWS when I have a fluent moment I immediately start to speak too much because I become so enthusiastic, which can be a problem, so I try to use crutch 11 to avoid that.
GáborParticipantMy favorite is extreme/dramatic pronunciation because I usually suppress my emotions and feelings (except when I’m angry, I can speak perfectly fluently then :D). I did some recordings when I’m reciting poems and even if I thought I’m overly dramatic, I really wasn’t – also sent some recordings to my trusted friends and they also didn’t feel them forced or too much.
GáborParticipantI remember that part but I wasn’t sure whether the duration of a habit (months, years or decades) is irrelevant or not when we change it.
GáborParticipantMy question is: if I stuttered for 25 years, can I become a PWSS just in months? It would be logical that I need another two decades for cure.
GáborParticipantThank you! Sadly I have to miss this week’s SAM meeting because of a family gathering but I’m looking forward to our coaching session and the next week’s SAM meeting.
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