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JavierModeratorHi Charley!
I know what you mean, in my job (I’m also a realtor), I deal with strangers every day. I wrote something about this in WSSA’s blog some weeks ago, and ‘m sure it will be very helpful for you:I also speak about this quite frequently in my coaching sessions. I encourage you to watch the videos. You can filter them by tags (search for “presentations”).
If you need anything else, please do let me know!
JavierModeratorHi Charley, my advice as a coach is that when you feel under pressure, before you begin speaking, think of a Crutch, and make sure you use it. I would suggest you to pick any Crutch 7-12 as a speaking style, and use any of the Crutches 1-8 for Feared First Words. If you cooncentrate 100% on doing that, there is no chance you will stutter. Your brain will be too busy with the Crutches to think on anything else, including stuttering.
JavierModeratorToday I’ve been speaking for 3 hours, non-stop, without appearing to have a speech problem. I’ve done this mainly by not planning my words and focusing on my voice, on trying to be expressive and pasisonate. A few times I accidentally planned a few words, but the Crutches avoided this from becoming a bad speech incident.
Who would have thought that a person who’s been stuttering for most of of his life would be able to do this?JavierModeratorToday I’ve been speaking for 3 hours, non-stop, without appearing to have a speech problem. I’ve done this mainly by not planning my words and focusing on my voice, on trying to be expressive and pasisonate. A few times I accidentally planned a few words, but the Crutches avoided this from becoming a bad speech incident.
Who would have thought that a person who’s been stuttering for most of of his life would be able to do this?JavierModeratorWord linkage, synonyms are the ones I began using the most at the beginning. Now the ones I like the most are Speaking like a King and modulation
JavierModeratorSpeaking softly works great too! Since we have the phone really close to our lips, we can speak softly, the person that we’re talking to will hear us just as well. I have shown this a lot of times in my coaching sessions. The same applies to Skype/Zoom conversations, when we have a mic or a headset.
June 22, 2020 at 2:47 pm in reply to: How do you guys find the time to fit your Auto-suggestion into your schedules? #27172JavierModeratorWhat I used to do (and continue doing) is waking up half an hour earlier (I don’t really mind sleeping a bit less), and dedicate that time to give myself a Self-hypnosis treatment during the morning. The other one I do it at night. I usually fall asleep while doing it. During the day, I used to do another Auto-Suggestion Treatment whenever I had to go to the bank or to my workplace.
June 22, 2020 at 2:44 pm in reply to: Covid-19 …. Has your stuttering increased due to the confinement? #27171JavierModeratorDuring the confinement I’ve read aloud 7 books, I’ve been reading aloud a lot more!! So in general I’ve been able to work on my speech a lot more!
JavierModeratorI absolutely agree with you! The fact of being a PWS doesn’t mean that you have a breathing problem. And we should not try to control our breathe, the same way we don’t control the blinking of our eyes. It makes no sense, and when we do that, we breathe/blink in an unnatural way.
What do the rest of you guys think? Has any of your speech therapists ever asked to control your breathing while speaking?June 18, 2020 at 8:42 am in reply to: Hand gestures – Do they add or detract from your speech? #27149JavierModeratorI like to use hand gestures. As long as you don’t look like one of those inflatable wacky waiving tube guys that you normally see at the car dealer lots, it’s preferable speak without moving a single finger, like a statue. When you use hand gestures, you move yourself a little bit, you sound much more natural, and it clearly distracts youb from the stutter fears.
JavierModeratorI hope they meant tto say it in a good way too hahahaha
JavierModeratorHahahaha, I loved that story. I must admit that I’ve only used the accent Crutch a few times, but it is very true that when you use it, you don’t stutter, and it’s a lot of fun for all of us. I have to use it more often
JavierModeratorWhen I was in university, I had one teacher who was really passionate about the stuff he was teaching, and he also spoke pretty well (following all or almost all the steps to Speak like a King), so all of us really enjoyed his classes. I actually got one of the highest grades of the class. A couple of years later, I had a different teacher, teaching basically the same thing as the other one, but obviously on a more advanced level. She spoke really quickly, always facing the blackboard, not us, and all she did is to explain what she was righting, in a monotone, and rather quickly. None of us were able to understand what she was explaining. I managed to pass the exam, but the % of failures was a lot higher. Guess why….
Speaking like a King not only helps us speak fluently, but it also helps us be better speakers. Our listeners will understand us way better, and if we add to that a bit of enthusiasm, people will enjoy speaking with us a lot more. If we do this when we’re at work, this can only help us succeed. Our clients will like us more. Our boss will surely feel that enthusiasm as well.JavierModeratorSure! Let me know!
By the way, you were on the SpeechMastersClub Talk in which certified hypnotist Monica spoke about this subject, weren’t you? I found it very interesting!!June 18, 2020 at 8:10 am in reply to: Do you stutter more when you speak in another language? #27144JavierModeratorI agree with you. I think that when we speak in a second language our fear of saying something incorrectly increases (because we don’t have such a wide vocabulary as in our mother tongue), and this makes us stutter more. I stopped caring about this a while ago. In most cases, even though I might make a grammar mistake or something similar, people will understand me. And if this is not the case, I will explain myself again with different words.
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