October 19, 2020 at 12:51 pm #27964
I have heard many people say that they accept their stuttering as who they are and therefore see no need to change it as it is a part of them.
My question to you, do you like stuttering? A simple yes/no answer is required. If you answer no, then you should not accept your stuttering as who you are as it CAN be changed by rewiring your brain.
I do not think anybody would answer yes to that question if they are completely honest with themselves. If you chose “yes”, please elaborate on why.October 20, 2020 at 10:39 am #27969GáborParticipant
No and I don’t understand those who are “proud” of their stuttering and think that it somehow makes them unique (I’ve read an online stuttering forum on Reddit and that’s full of those people).October 26, 2020 at 12:19 pm #28031
Stuttering makes one as unique as somebody who has lost a limb. It is admirable that you are still able to live a fulfilling life without both arms, but nobody actually wants to experience it for themselves.
People admire you for pushing through life with a stutter, but they pity you just the same. Nobody in the world envies PWS (as “unique” as they are), this I can assure you!November 18, 2020 at 2:32 pm #28198CliftonModerator
I don’t think anyone is actually proud of their stutter deep down inside… even if they say they are. We all know it is a hellish nightmare of which we cannot wait to wake up from, and those of us that have, there’s nothing like it.November 19, 2020 at 1:53 pm #28205
So then Clifton, what do you say to people who say “stuttering makes me who I am”?November 19, 2020 at 2:39 pm #28207CliftonModerator
Sadly, I think if someone identifies as a stutterer and is “proud” of it, there’s not a whole lot we can do to help them. Coaches can’t help anyone that isn’t willing to help themselves. Do you agree?November 20, 2020 at 9:41 am #28209
I hated my stutter. I simply hated it. I only wish I had found Lee’s book before. At least I found it and I became a PWSS. Now my life is a lot better than before. Better than I would have ever imagined.
So I agree with you guys, I can’t understand those who accept it. It’s like they give up.
After having gone to speech therapy for more than 10 years, without little or any progress, I ended up giving up. I knew there was no solution to stuttering at that moment. I knew that one day there will be one, but that day hadn’t arrived yet, so there wasn’t much I could do, just wait. I had to try to live with it, although I was angry, and even depressed, most of the time. As I said, I hated it.
Finally a good friend of mine, also a PWS, told me about Lee’s book, and the day I began reading that book I knew my stuttering days were counted.
So now that there is a solution, a way to stop stuttering, and that there is more than enough proof of its efficacy, I can’t understand those who deny it and prefer to life stuttering. And as Clifton said, no coach can ever help someone who’s not willing to help themselves.November 21, 2020 at 1:56 pm #28223
Clifton, I fully agree. I once coached a PWS who would not believe anything I said. He kept telling me that I am wrong and that he is right and refused to be open to what I had to say. There is absolutely no way that I could have helped him.
It baffles my mind how people keep holding on to beliefs about stuttering when it has kept them stuttering for years. Oh well, I am here to help those who want to be helped and who are open to a new way of thinking. Those who refuse to accept living powerless lives due to stuttering. Hopefully, once we have helped enough people cure their stuttering, people will be less inclined to accept theirs.November 30, 2020 at 4:31 am #28295Adam WerthParticipant
If any treatment is wrong for a stutter…they aren’t going to follow through without it……! Just because methods can help hundreds or thousands, doesn’t mean the methods will work for every single person in the world!
Yes a person can be cured…but if the methods are wrong for them they wont go through with it! They will find other methods that WILL work for them and be self-cured!November 30, 2020 at 9:49 am #28306
What we’re saying, Adam, is that if somebody doesn’t follow the instructions, well don’t expect any improvement. If you don’t even give it a try, well, then don’t say it doesn’t work…
That’s why it is very important to firstly believe that you can stop stuttering. The second step is, logically, to start applying the method.January 4, 2021 at 8:28 am #28591Adam WerthParticipant
The only way to like stuttering is to not give a rat’s tail and have great pleasure in doing it!!! If you can make up jokes up about your stuttering-more power to ya!
If you apply methods in social situations and still stutter as you apply them……..that’s when it’s ok to think “the methods dont work”
If you give it your all in applying crutches in every day life and they aren’t working out for you….don’t continue on that path -find a different path………..:-) No-im not implying anything! That’s a generalized statement!January 4, 2021 at 9:09 am #28594
Exactly, if something isn’t working for you, you should probably make sure you’re using it correctly. If you’re not doing it right, you can either try to learn to use it correctly or, try something else.
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